Two things you do not have control over. The people you call parents and your place of birth. These two are tags you cannot easily get rid of. Like it or not, you have to live with the reality of accepting your parents and your birth place.
The Ghanaian Lady faces some challenges daily and looking through my philosophical glasses, I shake my head and smile inside.
- The lady is made to fit perfectly into someone else’s dream and it’s just fine. She keeps going and moving towards the mark until one day, the reality hits her and she tries to find her identity. Though it takes time, some are able to access the results of their findings while others remain broken forever. A lost identity can be a dent on a lady’s personality forever. If it’s hard for someone to find herself, then she will be forever lost
- Strength is when you never cry. Who told you those who cry are weak? Who told you the ones who lean on shoulders are weak? Strength is when you admit you need someone to lean on and bravery is when you cry and wipe your tears, smile and move on. Real strength is in the boldness of admitting who you are and coming out of it if you do not like where you are. Strength does not involve running away from your fears and living a life just for the cameras.
- Confidence is seen as pride. I was privy to an elderly woman’s comment and I smiled and walked away. She said, ”I am not comfortable with today’s ladies because they are too proud. They talk about everything, they are everywhere and they think they know everything.” I smiled because I realized she could not draw the line between confidence and pride. Confidence is what the 21st century lady needs but if we keep confusing confidence with arrogance, then we cannot provide any meaningful social and educational needs to ladies.